"I lie on my bed and stare at the ceiling. My thoughts - all about you, give me a lovely feeling!" ~ Unknown
Our thoughts, especially about love – romantic love, produce chemicals in our brains that flood our bodies. Adrenaline, dopamine, oxytocin, and serotonin all create those ‘in love’ feelings. Serotonin, one of love's most important chemicals, may explain why when you’re falling in love, your new lover keeps popping into your thoughts.
Can love actually change the way you think, though? A landmark experiment in Pisa, Italy showed that early love (the attraction phase) really does change the way you think. Dr. Donatella Marazziti, a psychiatrist at the University of Pisa in Italy, showed in 1999 that levels of the neurotransmitter serotonin, which has a calming effect on the mind, dip below normal in those who say they are in love, as well as in people with obsessive compulsive disorder. Both groups spend inordinate amounts of time obsessing about something or someone.
So, your thoughts can create these chemicals even when they are not about romantic love. Think about your brand new puppy or kitten. Think about the first time you held a baby. Think about your go-to movie when you need a good cry or any other thought that brings up a strong feeling of love for you.
In any and every given moment, just the fact that you can be aware of your thoughts gives you the power to change them. Now, the next time you become aware that your thoughts are negative – whether about someone or something else or yourself - stop, take a breath, place your hand on your heart and ask yourself, “Is there room for love, in this moment, in this thought?”
There always is. There is nothing but love.
While connections with others are profoundly important, an even deeper foundation for meaningful relationships starts with the one we have with ourselves. There is no scarcity of love: It is as close as your own heart... Think about it!